New experience with babysitter

Today marks another new experience to both of us. We send Adam to his babysitter for 2 days trial because mummy will be going back to work this coming Monday. Seriously rasa berbelah bagi but we know that we have got no other choices. Siaaan anak daddy ni kene tinggal dengan org lain.

So this morning we woke up a little bit earlier than usual but si kenit tu pulak yang susah nak bangun. Pusing sana pusing sini still tak bangun2 jugak, gomol2 pun dia just senyum2 then sambung tido balik. Mummy went to bath first while daddy and Adam laying peacefully on the bed..hehe..Bila mummy dah settle then she took Adam to bath and me, kemas2 sikit. After that I went to bath while mummy breastfeeding Adam. When everybody is ready we off to the babysitter’s house in Bangi. While on our way there, si kenit tu sempat lagi breastfeed dengan mummy dia sampai tertido terus which is good, because it would be easy for us to leave him there with the babysitter. Tapi masuk je rumah dia terus bangun, maybe sebab he recognizes that he’s in different house. First impression, I think we have found a good babysitter for Adam and her house is quite clean, tidy and organised. Actually we found that babysitter through my wife’s cousin because she also sends her children to that nanny. She gives us the impression that the babysitter is good, very patient and love children. I guess my first impression is quite right but I never know because it’s only Adam’s first day.

So, nak dijadikan cerita at about 10am something my wife called the babysitter and asked how our boy is doing and to surprise us, she said she put Adam in buaian. To be fair to us, we actually already told her that we never put Adam in buaian and we are not planning to. But she said she tried to dukung him to put him to sleep but it just didn’t work out, so that’s why she had to put him in buaian. It just didn’t stop there, in the afternoon my wife called again, she said she managed to bottlefeed Adam eventhough initially he refused. So okla, as usual. Adam always refuses bottle, we need to force a little bit to bottlefeed him. What make us surprised the most today is, in order to initiate Adam to bottlefeed she actually breastfeed Adam. Haha, eyup!! She breastfeeds Adam??!!What a great surprise..When we first knew about it we were like, WHAT??!!Breastfeed?!!My wife lagila, when the babysitter told her that she was speechless. Terkesima terus taktau nak kata apa sebab terkejut. Biar benar, is it a common practice for every babysitter? Kitorang memang terperanjat habis and start calling everybody that we know to ask their opinion. Most of them said it’s weird and not hygienic but one of our colleague casually said that it happened to her daughter. She said, memang ada sesetengah babysitter yang macam tu and I told my wife to call her cousin (yang also hantar anak-anak dia dekat situ jugak) to confirm whether our babysitter is that kind of nanny or she just did that to our boy and it turned out that it is also a common practice for our babysitter because she did the same thing to both of my wife’s cousin’s kids. Haha, pening dibuatnya. Cam mana nak handle ni?

After lunch time, my wife called again to know how our Adam is doing. Kakak tu cakap she just bottlefed Adam but this time she did not breastfeed him first, she just forced him to drink his milk from the bottle. Alhamdulillah, we felt relief. She told my wife that she also tried to put him to sleep on his mattress that we provide her, as I expected Adam would not simply close his eyes that way. So kakak tu terpaksala masuk kan dia dalam buaian. Takpela, at least we know that she tried. Actually Adam memang kene dukung dia sekejap kalau nak bagi dia tido. Once dia dah tido, letak je kat bawah especially kalau menelangkup memang boleh sampai tido matila..hehe..Tapi yela, tak bolehla nak expect kakak tu buat the same thing. Takkan nak dukung Adam je, budak2 yang lain tu cam mana pulak ye tak?Okla at least she had tried. Lagipun baru first day. Harap-harapnya lepas ni, things will get better. Maybe some of you might wonder why we are so fussy about Adam tidur in buaian. We know it’s not really a big deal, cuma kitorang taknak biasakan dia sebab senang nanti kalau nak ke mane2, tak payah nak kene angkut segala menda, leceh. Kalau dia biasa tidur bawah, just bentangkan the tilam then lantakla nak tido cam mana pun. Yela lain orang lain caranya ye tak.

So for the first day, I would say not so badla. Just that one incident that really shock us badly .So to look at this on brighter side, at least she’s honest to tell us how she actually takes care of our boy. To be fair to her, she might think that it is actually a common practice to initiate baby to bottlefeed, so she expects that we already know about it. I guess we might have to discuss with her or sembang2 just to get to know each other and to make sure both parties know and understand on each other expectations. Yela, senang kalau dua-dua pihak dah setuju, takdela masalah terkecik hati ke, kang susah pulak kan. Actually we do realize that we can not be so strict because afterall akak tu jugak yg tolong jaga anak kita tapi at the same time tak boleh berlembut sangat jugak, kang lain pulak yang jadinya. So we have to carefully analyse if we have situation like today and make considerations on a lot of things in order to deal with the situation. Ni baru first day and baru little disagreement, lepas ni maybe banyak lagi hal-hal lain. We know that it’s not easy to raise our kids nowadays, too many challenges and unexpected things that we have to deal there and then. Insyaallah, I’m sure we are going to learn along the way through our own experience and also from others…

To our dearest Adam, daddy just wants you to know that it’s not our intention to let other people partially take the responsibility in taking care of you. Only God know how much we both especially your mummy want to raise you using our own hands 24-7 but we can not simply do that, we can but it’s just too difficult. It’s not easy for us to give you to other people. We are so reluctant to do it but we realize that at this particular time we don’t have many choices. Hopefully with God’s will Sian mummy tau, sampai nangis2 lepas tinggalkan Adam kat rumah ibu tadi. In fact now, she’s still worried about that breastfeed incident. We always want the best for you in everything. Trust me dear, we would give everything we have and we will do whatever we can just to raise you well Adam.